🚀Networking - GOD mode
Here are all the secrets I've learned in 26 years...
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How is it that some people are always "lucky" and in the right place at the right time, while others never get it right... well that's what we're going to talk about in this letter!😉
Let's be honest I wasn't a big networker but I'm getting into it, I've just met the head of Startup Mafia and the founder of Alphacademy in the last couple of days. 🚀
It's quite exciting when you think of it as a game! 🤔
We'll get into that soon, but until then, let's see...
🚀 How's the challenge?
⬆️ Out with the new Update
In which we fixed all the bugs, accelerated the App and fixed the lock screen player to work perfectly. 🪲
Not to mention the new Onboarding, which we expect to work wonders! Since it brutally personalizes the experience, I'm hoping it will also improve Retention, i.e. how long users use the App. 📈
🔥 Streak Boost
One of the big innovations we've started working on is reimagining and gamifying Streak. This is a longer process, I think it will take about 2-3 weeks to get it on the App, but it will help a lot. 🙏🏻
It's going to have a bit of a Duolingo feel, where Streaks gamify all the learning! There will be Streak Calendar, Congratulations screen and shareable milestones, which - not incidentally - look pretty serious! 😉
🤖 Accelerate AI mentors
We're working with the guys to speed up the AI mentor response to 2-3 seconds. We did it once, but we got worse answers. So now we are thinking a thousand times how we can fix this. 🧠
🙏🏻 I'm very proud of these guys
They do superhuman work all the time, but in the last two weeks I don't even recognize them, they fix 1-1 full feature in a couple of days or even fix all the existing bugs we know about. 🤝
I honestly don't know where BookBase would be without them!
Okay, let's get to the advanced level! 🏆
💭 Why is it important to build your Network consciously?
🌐 In the previous letter I covered the basics, so here I want to get a little more advanced. It's important to specifically plan in advance what kind of Network you want.
But not just "Ohh there should be famous people in it.", but also how many people should be in it. 🧐
If you write this down for yourself beforehand, then you'll know what you're working towards and you'll know how to play this part of your life. 🕹
This is called "Luck Mapping"!🍀
Where you map out how you can attract "luck".
It's important to point out that, thanks to evolution, a person can have an average of 150 friends, so that's about how many people they can keep in touch with. 😪
💡Side note: However, few people will tell you that as soon as you change locations, that 150 will almost completely restart. So, if you live in 2 places, it could be 300. How do I know? Because I've lived in 3 places in my life and experienced this in all 3!
So the more places you are in, the bigger your web of connections can be! Don't get me wrong, I'm not encouraging you to move to a different place every month - although that would be pretty cool - but rather that sometimes it pays to move. 🌍
Because I've seen a lot of people find that where they live can be a limiting factor. And yes, I know, thanks to the internet there are no more restrictions, but you still have a preference for one or two places. Let me give you an example:
If you are looking to start a Startup, Budapest is the place for you, rather than a smaller town. Why? 🚀
Because there are plenty of Startup events in Budapest where you can talk to like-minded people who can help you achieve your goal. 🎯
Here's another example:
If you want to be a model, you have a better chance in Paris or Milan than in Eger, for example. Why? 👱🏼♀️
Because they are bigger cities, with more opportunities and more fashion-centric.👗
So, it's important where you are!
But, like everything else this can be played out, I'll show you! 🤨
I, personally hate Budapest, big, dirty, noisy. 🤮
However, Budapest is where the Startup stuff is, so what do I do? 🤔
I sometimes travel up to these events to be there live, but I spend 95% of my life in Eger, which I love! 👍🏼
📕 Book recommendation: Dale Carnegie's "How to Make Friends and Influence People" is an absolutely essential work in this category. It teaches the basic principles of communication in a completely understandable way. 17 minutes at BookBase! 🎧
📕 Book Recommendation 2: Non-verbal cues make up 93% of communication, so your movements, facial expressions, etc. The bestseller on this topic is "The Encyclopedia of Body Language" by Allan and Barbara Pease. Also 17 minutes in the App. 🎧
🧐 How will this be conscious?
Before we get into consciousness, we first need to understand the different categories of people. Over the years I have distinguished 15 categories:
The "Glue Guy"
"The Guy who has done it before"
Older, more clumsy people
Childhood friends
Soulmates
Female friends
Influencer friends
Startup friends
Crypto frendz (I spelled it that way on purpose)
Adventurers
Work-out friends
Professional athletes
Locals
Owners
Waiters/Bartenders
One by one, I will quickly explain them all to you:
1. 🧲 The "Glue Guy"
Typically, a man who has a lot of friends and likes to organize events and connect people. That's why he's called "Glue Guy".
Where you can find him: Usually at larger events, conferences, dinners.
How to add value: Introduce him to people in YOUR network to expand his network of contacts. Tell him about your target so he knows who to connect you with.
2. 🤵🏽♂️"The Guy who has done it before"
The person who has already sold their business or has a thriving business and plenty of time. He likes young entrepreneurs because he sees a little bit of himself in them and helps them where he can. Not least because he wants to be - and is - young, he wants to have new adventures with other people.
Where to find him: Acquaintances, wine tastings, cool restaurants, cafes.
How to add value: try to help him with your youthful outlook, make him feel respected and feel free to ask him for advice - because on the one hand he can give you useful advice - and on the other hand he likes to be able to help other people. But importantly, if he has given you advice, take it and show him how you will do what he suggests!
3. 👴🏼 Older, more clumsy people
They can be investors, mentors or just experts on 1-1 topic. The point is that they have a lot to offer you.
Where to find them: places where older people go, spas, golf courses, saunas, wine dinners.
How to add value: Listen to his stories, ask questions, let him tell you. You can learn a lot from him, not to mention you'll be a good listener and he'll definitely reward you for it.
4. 👦🏼 Childhood friends
I think this really needs no explanation. The people you met in primary and secondary school and have been friends with for years. They know all your stories; know your life story and you trust them 100%.
Where to find them: in primary school, high school or during afternoon hobbies. Even at sports practices.
How to give him value: Always listen, help him in any way you can. NEVER stab him in the back and NEVER let him down. A friend like that is worth more than anything!! Protect your relationship at almost any cost!
5. 🫂 Soulmates
You will only have 1-2 of these for the rest of your life. Typically, the people you are very much on the same wavelength with, usually a childhood friend "develops" this relationship.
Where you find them: you tend to have this relationship from your childhood. You may need to revisit it because you haven't spoken in a long time.
How to give it value: This is the most important relationship of all. So, you need to spend the most time preserving it. Treat her like family and help her at all costs. He knows he can count on you, but it goes back and forth! If you have a disagreement, discuss it immediately!
6. 👱🏼♀️Female friends
Girls who you are good friends with but not your girlfriend or sister etc. They are very useful because they can bring a whole different perspective into your life, not to mention they have lots of guy friends and can introduce you to lots of people.
💡 Side notes 2: It's wrong to spoil a friendship by seeing more into it than you should.
Where to find him: acquaintances, cafes, party places or even just on Instagram (although it's hard to find him there because he'll immediately think you like him, so better in person).
How to add value: Simply create a safe environment for her where she feels comfortable. Be yourself be fun and adventurous, so he'll feel comfortable around you and introduce you to lots of people.
7. ⭐️ Influencer friends
People who produce content in a segment and have already built up a large audience for themselves. They are usually cool and like to try new things and have a huge network of contacts.
Where to find them: They tend to be at the bigger events, conferences and festivals. Or a show they're invited to (probably the best way to meet people, as there are fewer people than at a festival).
How to add value: First, tell them why you follow him and what he does very well. Mention people in your Network that could be useful to him, whether it's a collaboration or just a podcast with another Influencer. Anything that could advance his or her career.
8. 🚀 Startup friends
People you know who have Startups or are working in a Startup or are in the process of starting a Startup. They usually work hard, have a huge heart and enjoy being around other people.
Where to find them: They usually move around Budapest and the surrounding area.
How to add value: Listen to their vision, connect them with people who can help them. This could be an Influencer or an older more experienced Mentor or anyone who can help. If you try to help Him, He will definitely want to help you in return.
📕 Book Recommendation 3: If you want to move on this topic, a must read is "Lean Startup" by Eric Ries. You can find it on BookBase as "The Startup Method". 🎧
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🌐 Crypto Frendz
The crypto faces who talk about it non-stop and are brutally into new technologies. They are insanely innovative and love futuristic things. A bit in the "crazy" category, but of course in a good way! (I love people like Barni, Matyi, with whom we did Imperial, MakeItCount Gábor, Laszika, they are typical)
Where you can find him: Binances conferences around the world, crypto events and usually in the depths of a Discord server. Or on the Imperial NFT Discord server. (HUN)
💡 Side notes 3: It's good to have the kind of NFT people you want to get to know, because that's a full-on staple at the very beginning, so they know you're like them.
How to add value to it: Listen to them, brainstorm with them, brainstorm together. Introduce them to other Cryptic Faces (they'll probably be the most grateful for this). If they already have their own project, connect them with someone who would be useful to them.
10. 🏕 Adventurers
People who are adrenaline junkies and love extreme things. Typical trademarks are snowboarding, sky-diving, wakeboarding, traveling, jet skiing, etc.
Where to find: Wakeboard tracks, Hostels abroad, Surf paradises.
How to add value to it: Be spontaneous and open to any adventure, take the organization off their shoulders, don't phone in their company. Let them tell you their stories - believe me there will be plenty of excitement - be cool and don't cut them off with anything.
11. 🏋🏼♂️ Work-out friends
They can talk non-stop about training, food and bio-hacking. They keep searching for the new and best workout plans and perfecting their bodies. And by the way, they LOVE to work out!
Where to find it: fitness
How to add value: Help them push-up in the gym, joke around, introduce them to girls (they might enjoy that the most)
📕 Book Recommendation 4: You can be an ultra-big success in this category if you've read Schwarzenegger's book "The Encyclopedia of Bodybuilding", the only problem is, it's about 700 pages. However, I have good news because it will soon be included in the BookBase thanks to Bögszi. 🎧
12. 🏆 Sportsmen
I don't know many elite athletes yet, but the ones I do know are 1:1 humble and will do anything to achieve their goals. They are simply unstoppable and you are doing them a disservice if you try to push them away!
Where to find them: Through influencers or acquaintances.
How to add value: Wish them luck, tell them you looked at them. Make them feel that it really matters to YOU how they perform. Introduce them to other elite athletes or other people of similar caliber. NEVER harass them or they will immediately ban you, their goal is more important than anything!
13. 🛖 Locals
Usually you meet them on trips, they are helpful and like meeting new people. Wherever you get stuck they will try to help you and give you good tips. Extra points if you learn their names and can pronounce them correctly.
Where to find them: On trips abroad in cafes and bars.
How to add value: They usually like foreigners especially if you have a serious social media me brand. They are happy to show you around and give you good tips. Listen to them, check out those things and send them a picture and a thank you message to show you took their advice.
14. ⛲️ Owners
It could be a bar, a restaurant or even a gym. Anyone who owns something like this. An old story is that in Brazil I was good friends with the owner of the gym and he ended up coaching me. And in Italy, I met the owner of the Thai Boxing gym, who was also a European and World Champion. I had a much looser relationship with him, but I was able to go to his training sessions.
Where you can find him: They are usually in their own places, if you go there a lot, they will recognize you and be more open to you a lot.
How to add value: Compliment their places, post a story and tag them and the place in it. Take other people of value there and introduce them to each other. The more you visit their places, the more they will know you!
And finally, the last one
15. 🍸 Waiters/Bartenders
I don't think this one needs much explanation, but a connection like this can be worth its weight in gold later on. Think about it, whether you're meeting a girl or going to a business meeting, you sit down at the bar and the waiter knows you by name and just says, "Hi Christopher, the usual?"
How much does that put you in the other person's shoes?!
Where can you find them: they usually work non-stop at their own workplace.
How to add value: Ask their name, introduce yourself, chat a bit and always leave a good tip.
Huh I swear I'm a little tired by the end, but I've now revealed to you all the secrets I've learned in 26 years of building relationships.
I've also learned a lot from Arlin Moore, so it wouldn't be fair if I didn't mention him.
Let's see...
✅ What exactly can you do?
We've come to our usual checklist.
Based on the list above, write down the people you want to surround yourself with and divide the 150 people up accordingly (initially only divide up the 150 e.g., 2 Glue Guy, 20 Startup Friends etc.) 📝
After that you will know how many people you need in your Network, it's time to write down where these people are located.🌐
Make a Notion spreadsheet or use the one I mentioned in the previous post and add a column: Category - and here you can add all 15 Categories I wrote above, so you can see visually how your Network is doing. 🔍
Add your existing friends and categorize them as well. 🤝
You already have where you can find them, so make a plan for yourself of where you're going to go to meet people on which day of the week and for what purpose. It's also good to look ahead to events (Startup conferences, Crypto events, etc.)📍
You can even add a progress bar to Notion next to the categories, showing how many people you know in each category and you've got your networking game on! 🧪
But once again, it's important to mention that this will ONLY work if you can be counted on and you don't want to take advantage of these people. 🧡
Because you know what spreads faster than fire...
A bad reputation! 😔
So be a good person, a good connection and help your friends where you can and I promise you won't have any problems in life! 🙏🏻
🔥 Challenge
The biggest challenge this week was the OM Merch Drop. There will be a lot of stuff with sweaters and shipping, but I'm so glad it went so well. 🙏🏻
Plus, I'm looking forward to the new Update, but I'm trusting the guys that everything will work out and there will be no bugs in it. I feel that if it goes well, it could make a big difference to the App. 📈
Besides that, we're working on AI Mentors by the thousands to get them in a usable state as soon as possible and we can even integrate them into the App. 🤖
📖 What have I read now?
I've also read Sapiens Part II, so I'm in a bit of a reading slump as to what to read next. 😵💫
I got a recommendation titled "Startup Playbook" and it's written by Sam Altman the head of Open AI. It's not that long and it's up on the Net for free, so it could be a fascinating read! I link it here for you! 🤓
🎧 What have I just listened to?
I've been watching instead, a new series on Netflix called "The Playlist" which is about Spotify, it's brutally interesting and you can learn a lot from it, I've already recorded a TikTok about it. 🎧
Just a few things:
😕 Sometimes an industry gets to the point where it can't evolve any further and that's when fresh young entrants come in (Sony publisher vs. Spotify)
🧠 It's really important to have a team and not just have like-minded people on the team, because then the pitfalls are missed (programmers, lawyers, business people)
🎯 If your basic goal is to make people's lives better, you will succeed sooner or later (Daniel Ek, one of the co-founders, was specifically pissed off when they wanted to make Spotify pay because he believed in free music)
🔍 Analyze your competitors and see what you can do better.
(On pirate bay all the music was free, but you had to download it first to listen to it, on Spotify you could listen to it instantly, small thing, but it makes a difference)
In a 2-minute video, the South Park Writers teach you Storytelling. ✍🏼
Something brutal that they can impart so much knowledge so quickly.
I'll link it here for you:
✍🏼 Top quotes
"True friendship is formed the moment you hear: 'Are you serious? I thought it was just me..." ~ C.S. Lewis
"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'" ~ C.S. Lewis