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Stress is in everyone's life, just less for some. 👍🏼
It depends to a large extent on who's stress tolerant. It depends on how much stress you can handle. 🤯
💡Side note: This can be developed and as you take on more and more responsibility, your stress tolerance will increase. For example, at the beginning of my business I would have been absolutely terrified of a tax return and now it's part of my life. Or that I didn't start a limited company because I was afraid of tax and of making a mistake.
Let me say up front that I am not a mechanic, but even I know that it is not good for the car to have the engine revving at 6,000 rpm all the time. 👷🏼♂️
It's the same with people, if you keep revving and don't slow down, it can lead to burnout quickly. And burnout is much harder to come back from than just slowing down. 😬
I used to hate resting too, I was always thinking about work until I spoke to a Billionaire who warned me against it even then. I didn't listen to him and I was ALMOST burned out too! 😧
❓ Why is stress management important?
Essentially for 2 reasons:
⚡️ To move faster in the long run
🌞 To have the time to live in the moment and have experiences
💡 Side notes 2: As I move further and further ahead in life and career, the second point becomes more and more valuable to me! The sum of the experiences and the quality of the moments lived, is what makes a person valuable! (at least in my current understanding)
See Edu and Kokesz, who are pushing coding full steam ahead and are 12 days ahead of schedule already on the 90-day plan. Which is pretty good! 😎
💡 Side notes 3: They are able to move at this speed because they like what they do, if they didn’t, they could go about half as fast. That's why it's important to try to find a job/enterprise that you love doing and that you feel good about!
We've been working together for almost 1 year now, the three of us, and the responsibility is growing exponentially on us in every way. The rough part is that I can't compare them to themselves that they were 1 year ago. They have become so much more serious and mature. 👴🏼
Responsibility and stress are not necessarily a bad thing, you just have to learn to live with it!
It's like fear! 👻
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I'm asking you to listen now and as much as you love your job, give yourself a day or two off sometimes. Live those moments, see those friends, travel to those places you've always wanted to go. 🙏🏻
Because when you look back at 80 years old, you won't be wishing "Ohh I wish I'd worked more", you'll be wishing "Ohh I wish I'd had more experiences." 😒
Kokesz and Edu also took a few days off over the holidays and how well they did. ✅
When they came back, they had 2 weeks of work grinded down in 2 days, they were so energized and charged up! (but again, they really love what they do, including myself, because I love my job)🔋
💡 Side notes 4: The "pre-30-year phenomenon", I am sure this is not the correct name of it, but let me explain it. I noticed this phenomenon when talking to my relatives, parents, acquaintances, they always tell me stories that happened before they turned 30. If you have a lot of experiences, you can tell a lot of stories and it won't be boring. However, if you don't have a lot of experiences, I have to listen to the 26th one about how they used to get laid on the bus when they were young.
🚫 No offense, it may be a really big story, but I do NOT want to be like that when I'm old, I want to have so many stories, I never want to run out of them. I might add that is why I travel so "much" and try so many things.
All-in-all I think we're not doing badly with the guys! 😉
🤯 How do you manage stress?
Everyone's stress management is different, so here are a few examples to help you. Afterwards, I'll show you a specific checklist to help you choose what works for you and what doesn't. 👀
Quick interview, please help me with your answer! 🙏🏻
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💪🏼 1. Exercise: whether it's going to the gym or just jogging, exercise is proven to reduce stress in your body.
Gyms have worked for me, but the best was when I did Thai Boxing in Italy, there was not a drop of stress in me!
📕 Book recommendation. It's true that it's NOT in the BookClub, but what goes around comes around, because Bögszi has finished the main book of Exercise in 1 month....Drum roll please. 🥁🥁🥁
The Big Encyclopedia of Bodybuilding - by Arnold Schwarzenegger. He said Bögszi had never read a book so complex and detailed, it was no coincidence it was 790 pages. 😱 I don't want to scare anyone, but I don't think this will be a short summary!😅
🌬 2. Relaxation: whether it's breathing, meditation or yoga, choose what suits you best.
Meditation works for me, it's what I try to do every day, I only do 10 minutes, but I can already feel the positive effects. It clears my mind and I stop thinking unnecessarily!
📕 Book recommendation: James Nestor – Breathe. He also gives practical examples that you can use to start improving your Breathing and thereby reduce Stress. In just 15 minutes at BookBase.🎧
⏱ 3. Time management: Getting your time right and prioritizing tasks can help to reduce stress.
For me, what works is none other than the Weekly To-Do List. This way, I can work ahead or catch up if necessary. But even the Eisenhower-Matrix can be a perfect choice here, I've already written a post about it.
📕Book recommendation: The perfect book to read is Eat that Frog by Brian Tracy, about starting with the hardest tasks in the morning, because from there on, your whole day just gets easier. I think it's a staple work on the topic of productivity, you can find it on BookBase and listen to the main point of it (in 12 minutes). 🎧
🧡 4. Relationships: since humans are social beings, it's important to be able to develop quality relationships with other people. It helps to manage stress when you get together with friends, your partner, your family. (Here you can even ask for help with your problems or obstacles, which will indirectly reduce stress in your body)
You'll see what worked for me here, but for me this is one of the most critical points!
📕 Book recommendation: The book that is on my Top 3 list... is none other than How to Make Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. By far the best book on this subject, anyone who has asked me so far, I have recommended it to everyone! It gives you a concrete guide to making friends and new relationships. It's a basic work! It's also up on the App (17 min)🎧
😴 5. Sleep: How many times have you ever had a nervous breakdown and had a bad night's sleep before. Sleeplessness leads to poor decisions, which produces more stress in your body. I'll give you a simple example: once I didn't sleep well and in the morning my Mum asked me a question (but at the wrong time) and I said the wrong thing back and we had a fight, which ruined my whole day. So, all of a sudden, bad sleep turned into tons of stress.
I apply this by measuring my sleep every day and being very careful not to upset my biorhythm. I use the SleepCycle App, which used to be free (still is for me), but I've heard that 1-2 people have been charged for it, so if that doesn't work use the sleepyti.me website. It can help a lot in the same way!
🥗 6. Eating Healthy: Going back to the previous point, how many times have you had to yell at someone's head just because you were hungry. With me, many times! Hunger and fatigue is what gets us out of our rut the most. It also goes back to Evolutionary Psychology!
I try to address this by trying to eat 3 times a day (now 4 times a day) and most of the time, I succeed! This ensures my body is constantly getting replenished and there is no reason to freak out!
📕 Book recommendation: Perfectly explains what you should and shouldn't eat and also helps you to have a healthy diet!
⛔️ 7. Take breaks: as I mentioned above, it's not good to be constantly on the go because your brain will also be drained. Think of it like a battery that you need to recharge every now and then. This is what breaks and walks are good for.
The way I use this is that after my big Deep Work session in the morning, I go downtown for lunch with Kinga, which is just a short walk away. However, that walk and conversation with Kinga is exactly enough to get my brain fired up and recharged for the afternoon ride. (That sounded like some bad p*r movie, whatever, you get the idea)
📕 Book recommendation: Cal Newport's famous book Deep Work was the book that really hit me on the head, that the work I am doing is actually not work, it was just "little bit of WORKING" and I had to change my work ethic very quickly. 13 minutes in the App. 🎧
❌ 8: Learn how to say NO: It's totally okay to say NO to things sometimes. To quote one of my favorite writers:
" It's either Hell Yes or a Hell No for me." ~ Derek Sivers
I apply this in my life by saying Yes to very few things, I am almost unavailable to people, for a meeting. However, what I do say Yes to, I am 100% there and I listen. I used to say yes to everything and I was much more stressed.
📕 Book recommendation: Derek Sivers - How to live. This was the first book I read on my Kindle and I just ran through it, I was so captivated. It has since been added to BookClub (21 minutes 🎧), the book itself presents 27 directions to live your life and it's up to YOU to choose which one you like the most.
But it's time to move on and let you go behind the scenes and show you what my "stress management strategy" is. And of course, I've brought you a step-by-step guide again! 👣
✅ What exactly you should do?
You already know what's coming, the usual practical checklist at the end of the post!
If you go through these points and stick to them, I promise you won't have any more stress problems:
📝 Make a list of activities that keep you charged up.
It can be anything from FIFA to travel, to dinner at a restaurant.🖍 Draw 3 columns next to them
🧮 Once you have your list rate them on a scale of 1-10 on how much they cost.
1 is nothing - 10 is very expensive)
🧮 Then rate them on a scale of 1-10 how much time it takes you.
(1 is very little time - 10 is very much)
🧮 Finally, here's the twist! Rate them from 1-10 on how much they charge you,
BUT NOTE here 1 is very and 10 is less.
📈 After that, all you have to do is add up the scores and sort them in ascending order (so the lowest score is at the top).
This way you can make sure that you choose the most optimal activities for you and don't burn your resources. 🔥
But here's the important part, because so far, we've only defined the options!
You need to see how you can fit them into your daily routine.
Here's an example:
🎮 Taki comes over every 2nd night to play FIFA,
🍻 The Boys and I meet once a week,
🛩 I travel every 1-2 months to relax.
This will only make sense if you include these activities. Because (unfortunately) they don't have the same effect if they are written down on a sheet of paper...
Once you have that, you have 1 goal left! 🎯
To keep them and not to overdo it! 😉
🔥 Challenge
The biggest challenge for me is to perfect these activities. I need to make them habits because it's easier to incorporate them into your daily routine.
I found a very good Excel that I improved a bit and with this I was able to 100% gamify my life. The gist of it is simply that I named each habit a mission and I get XP points for each mission, which leads to my progress and as soon as I accumulate X amount of XP points, I level up. ⬆️
And here's the twist, every time I level up, I can surprise myself with something for persevering on myself and my habits. 🎁
I'm thinking of making this available on BookBase or OM, if you're interested, just vote at the end of the post! 🗳
📖 What have I just read?
I have started Yuval Noah Harari's new book, Drawing History II. It's a series that reworks the book Sapiens in comic book form. I love the subject matter, but I don't like dry books, so this was the perfect choice for me. This one is about the evolution of civilizations, probably my favorite subject within evolution, so I'm excited to grind through the pages.
🎧 What have I just listened to?
I listened to 2 exciting Blog Posts that I converted with Ad-Auris. Both of them were about how to create an AI Chatbot that could act as Customer Support 0-24. Actually, this is also the goal I experienced at Amazon, to have an AI Chatbot answer me immediately, get me to a point and then transfer me to a human for a very specific task. Now that's exactly what we want to achieve at OM, to take Customer Support to the highest level. 🤖
✍🏼 Top quote
"Sometimes we have to slow down to go faster later."